About ME

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I am an adoptive and bio mom, former foster mom, adoption coach, speech therapist, and have worked in the autism field for 2+ decades.

I know firsthand that raising children who are difficult to connect with, and who often display challenging behaviors, takes a huge toll on parents.

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This can often lead to shame, anxiety, depression, isolation, and a growing loss of hope. I know this because I've been there. 

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When I adopted my son, I had high hopes. I knew I could love him, and offer him a safe and caring home. And I felt that with my experience in the autism field, I was more-than-prepared to handle any challenge thrown my way.

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Pretty quickly behaviors escalated in our home, and pretty quickly I swooped into "help-mode." I did everything I knew how to do to help - signed him up for every program and resource I could find, followed all the recommendations, literally DID EVERYTHING I could to help, and behaviors kept getting worse. 

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As I grew exhausted from behaviors, I started noticing myself regretting and resenting - 2 feelings a parent never wants to feel. My actions weren't helping, and in fact my trying so hard was making behaviors, and our relationship, worse. 

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I was a victim to my son's behaviors.  I was on-edge at work, waiting for the next phone call. I avoided family and friend gatherings. I cancelled dinner plans, small day trips and big vacations. I felt isolated, anxious, overwhelmed.  

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To make things worse, I was beating myself up. I chose to adopt my son. The steps to adoption were not easy!  Adoption takes time, patience, money, lawyers, caseworkers, home-studies, and tons of emotional and educational preparation. I promised him a loving and happy home, but instead he has a home with many rules, tension, and a mom who has become so focused on behaviors.  Life was not fun.

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I was at the end of my rope.

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What I didn't know then - HOW I was showing up for my son was significantly more important than WHAT I was doing. 

 

I hired a mindset coach. 

 

Holy cow!  The change in my relationships has been drastic!  The other people in my life didn't have to change at all. I had to do the work on me, on my mindset, so that I could show up with unconditional love - no matter how the other person behaves. 

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Once I started working with a coach, I knew this was the missing piece for me in learning how to show up for my son in our relationship.  I quickly learned that our relationship was so hard, and I was so overwhelmed, because trying harder was NOT the solution! I learned that I needed to break through my old ways of parenting so that I could show up for my son exactly as he needed - as a connected parent.

 

 I am a certified mindset coach, and can guide you to relationships that bring you joy. With my unique 3-part framework, I teach you the key steps to BE a connected parent. I can even help you get behaviors under control too!

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What will you do when your life is full of joy, happiness, and peace?  I know I am loving it every day, and won't ever go back to my old ways of thinking, feeling, and responding!

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Ready to take that next step? If you are fed up with being fed up, and ready to create peace, joy, and happiness in your home, book a free session. Your family needs you to show up as a connected parent. Let me guide you there.

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